Insecurity and meditation

By: Tree Ryde, Jan 03, 2013

How can I control my insecurities?

We all have insecurities, but there are ways to stop our insecurities from controlling our lives.

About 50% of people allow insecurities to run their life and this can lead to depression, low energy, and inner darkness. For individuals suffering with large insecurities it can be a lifelong problem. It can affect work, friendships and other relationships.

You can break this cycle by creating an awareness of each insecurity, slowly break down each one and figure out why you have the insecurities to begin with. Here is an easy tool to break through and leave your insecurities behind.

Sit in a quiet place in your house, close your eyes and breathe. Not just your normal breath but a deep meaningful breath, from your belly. Thoughts will arise and that is what we want. Your first insecurity might be “Why am I doing this? Do I look stupid?” This is all common. The thoughts in our minds are the base of our insecurity.  We start with a thought and then add judgment; it is the judgment that gives us the bad feeling. In order to slow this down we have to train our thought process. We do this by asking why. If the thought is “I look stupid” Ask yourself why? You are sitting by yourself with your eyes closed. If the answer is: “someone might see me” then ask the question “why?” You are putting a judgment onto what someone else may be thinking and we can never know what someone else is thinking. Most importantly if someone doesn’t like you for who you are then why should you care?

Finding the awareness and breathing into each “why?” helps the thought process and you can slow it down. It is easy for thoughts to go on a spiral downward, these are the tools to stop it before it starts. Never think that you are alone in this, we are all human and have our own thought patterns. It’s learning the tools to control our thoughts and NOT letting them get the best of us. 

Every thought that goes through our mind affects our body. We tense up or our nervous system takes a beating. With proper breathing, we can slow down our mind and take it back from society or the conditioning that we received growing up. Do not let insecurities take over; it’s just thoughts in your mind, most of which aren’t reality.

We don’t lose our insecurities overnight; it takes time with ourselves, our breath and our own awareness that can break us free!

After 12 years of being in the rat race of the fashion industry Tree Ryde was looking for something to calm her mind body and soul and she found it in yoga finishing her 200H at Kula Yoga in 2007. She was addicted and wanted to deepen her practice of meditation and study the sub-conscious mind. She became a hypnotist in 2014 and works part time at the Burlington Hypnosis centre. Helping clients with anything from weight loss, quit smoking to nail biting. Tree also loves exercise and cook whenever she can, and is always coming across new recipes that are both delicious and nutritious