Does it seem that your child or children think you’re a joke? Are you the parent that they come to because they know you’ll pretty much say yes to any and everything? How often do you find yourself taking up for your child, even when you know they were wrong? Are you the parent that does nothing when your child clearly defies you?
If this describes you, it’s time you realize that you’re a pushover parent. Someone has to say it! This style of parenting only leads to problems as they get older, that you may not want to face. Parenting isn’t always easy. Unfortunately, today many parents have forgotten what it means to set boundaries for their children. In the end, they find themselves being disrespected and treated like the child themselves.
However, it’s never too late to change your parenting style. There are a few things that you can do to change the path that you are on as a parent. (You may want to take notes).
First, say what you mean and mean what you say. No means no. There are going to be a times when negotiating is not an option. When you tell your child something, they need to understand that it’s the final word. This is especially true in instances when you feel your child is out of their league or headed into something that is going to turn out badly. This isn’t to say that you have to say no to everything. Just keep in mind that if they are going to do any and everything they want, you get to clean up the mess afterwards.
Second, learn the difference between being a parent and being a friend. You should always demand respect as a parent. Of course, your child deserves respect as well and there are times when you need to be their friend. However, the line is fine. There will be times when you will have to make the line clear.
Last, never undermine your co-parent. When children see dissention in the ranks, they will strike. If you are a single parent, never undermine yourself. Children are clever little boogers, especially when they reach their teenage years. They become sneaky and conniving. Your job is to stay one step ahead.
By implementing these few tips, you can change the direction of your parenting ship. Parenting is already like swimming upstream. Why make it harder by throwing in the towel before you even enter the ring? Your job as a parent is to lead your child the best way you can. By being a pushover, you rob them of all of the valuable lessons they need to learn; the ones that will shape them into the type of adult you want them to grow into.