Counseling gets both people in a relationship in the same room to talk with the counselor. The counselor takes great efforts to help the couple understand what is causing their difficulties and work on ways to better deal with their problems. Both the people in the relationship get to share their views of what is going on, both good and bad, in the relationship.
Through relationship counseling, couples will learn how to work together. The counselor will teach the couple communication skills and help them learn how to disagree in a healthy way. If there are serious issues causing the problems in the marriage like drug or alcohol abuse or mental illness than other specialists might be brought in to help resolve those issues.
Talking about your problems and issues in marriage counseling is sometimes hard. You and your partner may find yourselves sitting quietly and refusing to speak to each other because you are so angry. Or you may find yourselves having a huge argument right there in the counselor's office. The marriage counselor is there to intervene and help you calmly discuss issues without implying that either of you are right or wrong.
Relationship counseling can make a huge difference in your marriage in a very short time. In some cases, though, marriage counseling may make you and your partner realize that you really do not belong together.
If your spouse or partner won't consider going to marriage counseling you should think about going alone. Obviously, marriage counseling is more effective if both partners attend but if you go alone you can learn how you can make a difference in the marriage by changing some of your behaviors and thought patterns.
The decision to attend marriage counseling is not usually an easy one but it is well worth the effort. Relationship counseling is a much better way to deal with issues in your relationship instead of trying to solve the issues by yourself. Which often result in relapsing into old cycles.
Dr. Pinaud is a registered Clinical Counsellor (BCACC#1992) based in North Vancouver, British Columbia, who specializes in relationship issues that include couples, families, and single individuals who may have had unsuccessful experiences in the past or are wanting to be involved in a long term committed relationship for the first time.
Over 20 years ago, Dr. Pinaud went through a painful divorce. At that time he enrolled in a course called “Rebuilding” by Dr. Bruce Fisher, which became the catalyst for significant growth and sparked his interest in Psychology. As a result he was trained and became a facilitator for this course. This led to the completion of a Masters in Psychology and a Doctorate in Counselling Psychology. The learning and passion for Dr. Pinaud's work continues to grow.