10 Tips to Improve Non-Verbal Communication for a Happier Relationship

Counselling, Toronto, Susan Blackburn

93% of your communication with your partner is non-verbal

Non-verbal cues include body language such as posture, muscle tension, eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, actions, decisions, breathing, attitude and tone of voice.

According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, a professor of Psychology at UCLA, 7% of communication is what is actually said, 38% is the tone of voice and 55% is body language.

Since non-verbal communication is such a significant part of the interpersonal dynamic between you and your partner, focusing your efforts here is the key to increasing closeness, building understanding and promoting trust between the two of you.

To get you started, I’ve put together a list of things you can do to create the relationship you desire.

My Top 10 Tips to Improve Non-Verbal Communication for a Happier Relationship

  1. Be Affectionate – Hold hands, hug and always kiss hello and goodbye
  2. Smile Lovingly – A genuine smile conveys happiness with your relationship
  3. Be Patient – Cultivate an attitude of acceptance
  4. Play Together – Be your partner’s recreational companion
  5. Be Flirtatious – Use your eyes to show desire and admiration
  6. Create Rituals – Share a cup of coffee and have a weekly date night
  7. Listen Attentively – Give your full, undivided attention
  8. Be Thoughtful – Leave a surprise note or small gift for your partner to find
  9. Show Devotion – Put your phone away when you spend time together
  10. Greet Warmly – Show excitement and joy on the phone/text and in person

Susan Blackburn is a Registered Psychologist providing Individual and Couples Counselling.

She is registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario, a member of the Ontario Psychological Association and has a M.A. degree in Counselling Psychology from the Adler School in Chicago, a B.A. (Honours) from York University and a B.Sc. in Business from the University of Phoenix.

Credentials include being a published author and several guest appearances on television and radio as an expert therapist including That Channel’s ‘Extraordinary Women TV’, the W Network’s ‘Style by Jury’ and Gail Vaz-Oxlade’s (of ‘Til Debt Do Us Part) show, ‘Princess’. Susan Blackburn Psychology