Rebuilding Family Connections with Family Therapy

Family therapy, Oakville, Ontario, Shift Cognitive Therapy + Assessment

Connecting with others is definitely important to do!

Using Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) and other models, Shift psychologists help provide a sense of safety in couples’ and family sessions, de-escalating conflicts and helping disengaged members to re-engage.

There is no blame within our therapies, only efforts to bring partners and family members closer together, so they can communicate what they really need from the relationship. Often, this takes the form of ‘translating’ behaviours.

Rebuilding Family Connections

For example, a husband might withdraw from his wife, seeing her angry face and hearing, “You’re never around!” We would work to help both partners appreciate what might be the wife’s true meaning, that is, protesting what she feels is the emotional distance between them as if to say, “You’re SO important to me, but your distance feels like you don’t need me.”

Shift psychologists understand that humans use cold detachment for emotional protection (e.g., “You can’t hurt me if I don’t allow myself to care.”) and focus on rebuilding fragile connections with the people we need and care about.

We never lose that need to connect with the people we value, and that is at the heart of the couples and family therapies offered at Shift.

Connection With Others is Critical

Emotional separation triggers panic in mammals, while emotional connections release hormones that stimulate happiness and calm. Infant’s brains activate connection triggers by creating mental images of caregivers to think of when alone and upset. Adult brains continue to do this, but often transfer the power to soothe from their parents to their partners.

While it’s normal for people in close relationships to argue, conflicts become problematic when members turn away, leaving the others feeling alone and unable to find comfort. In fact, the biological need for safe, emotional connections is so great that loneliness can increase blood pressure to the point where it can double the risk of heart attack and stroke in marital partners.

Our therapy work is intended to help partners and families remain engaged. Feeling safe and secure with our loved ones, we can resolve almost any issue together.

The Benefits of Family Therapy

Family therapy is a type of psychological counselling that can help family members improve communication and resolve conflicts. This type of therapy is an effective way to help all family members understand problems, and make positive changes in their lives as individuals and members of the family unit.

When one family member has a problem, it often has an effect on the entire family. Because of a change in one family member’s behaviour influences the structure of the entire family, the focus of treatment is the family system. It also helps families to deal with challenges such as eating disorders, substance abuse, chronic illness, etc.

Therapy Sessions

Family therapy is often short-term, ten to twenty sessions, and specific to a current challenge. It may include all family members or just those able or willing to participate. Your treatment plan will depend on your family’s situation. Family therapy sessions can teach you skills to deepen family connections and get through stressful times, even after you have completed your therapy sessions.

Family therapy can help you improve troubled relationships with your partner, children or other family members. You may address specific issues such as marital or financial problems, a conflict between parents and children, a conflict between siblings, or the impact of substance abuse or mental illness on the entire family.

Family and Individual Therapy

Your family may pursue therapy along with other types of mental health treatment, especially if one of you has a mental illness or addiction that requires additional therapy or rehabilitation treatment.

For example, family therapy can help family members cope with a relative that has a serious mental illness, such as schizophrenia — but the person who has schizophrenia should continue with their individualized treatment plan, which may include medications, one-on-one therapy or other treatment.

In the case of addiction, the supporting family members can begin treatment together while the family member with the addiction issue completes residential or outpatient treatment. Sometimes family members participate in therapy together even if the person with the addiction refuses to attend individual treatment.

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Shift Cognitive Therapy + Assessment

Shift Cognitive Therapy + Assessment is a team of psychologists and counsellers in Oakville, ON. We specialize in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy(CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) for the treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), depression and anxiety for children, teens and adults.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy & Emotion-Focused Therapy

The goal of cognitive behaviour therapy is to help individuals become aware of the thoughts and patterns of behaviour that keep them feeling stuck. Its focus is on the ‘here-and-now’ to help relieve current symptoms and address current problems.

Emotion-Focused Therapy is an approach to couples and family issues that focuses on identifying and correcting repetitive and dysfunctional patterns that leave people feeling alone and unsupported. EFT helps members of a couple or family to remain engaged with each other in order to better communicate what each really needs from the other.

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