Complain the right way and get the results you want

By: Apr 11, 2014
Complain the right way and get the results you want

From your spouse to your boss, here are 3 ways to complain successfully and achieve the results you're after.

Complain to Your Boss
It's all about timing. You don't want to dump your laundry list of office problems or complaints just as your boss is headed into a meeting. For optimal results, make an appointment with your boss to address your concerns. Make sure your supervisor knows ahead of time what the meeting is about, and stick to topic. If you need a conversation starter and are afraid to start dumping complaints, as your boss if their is anything they see in your performance that you could be doing better.

Your complaints will be heard if you don't simply rely on your boss to solve all the problems. Bring to the table specific ways to handle the problem. For example, if your cubicle partner is distracting, ask to be moved to the new cubicle that recently became available. But remember, your boss is not your friend. Save your whining for your peers and present complaints constructively to your boss.

Complain to Your Doctor
A helpful doctor is your best medical advocate. In decades past, patients were afraid to open up to their doctor and offer up their complaints. Not today. Doctors are more likely to help and understand the problem when the patient is a participant in their diagnoses and care. Helping your doctor connect the dots can actually prove beneficial to your health and well being.

When complaining to your doctor, stick to the facts. Don't turn the conversation into a whining session, but be prepared to present your medical history, current medications, and other pertinent information. If you are unhappy with a particular medication, be sure to inform your doctor. Be upfront and ask for help. When your doctor has the information needed, you receive the best possible care.

Complain to Your Spouse
Whether you have been married for 30 days or 30 years, your spouse may cause you a bit of angst by getting under your skin. Social workers in Toronto, including relationship expert Sari Shaicovitch reports that the key to complaining and yielding effective results is to lay it all out on the table. Rather than jumping down the person's throat, sit down calmly and explain what's bothering you.

Studies show that when people express their feelings, they are less likely to harbor resentment, which usually backfires and causes blow-ups and heated arguments. If you find yourself frustrated in your relationship, ask yourself if you've opened up and given your spouse a chance to correct his or her annoying behaviour. The most common complaints in a marriage are sex, power dynamics and roles, and money. No matter what the disagreement is about, open up, and allow the other to be heard. Done successfully, complaints can be beneficial to a relationship and create a stronger bond.