So, there’s a fast food wrapper trail of broken promises behind you. Your willpower is missing in action. You’re sinking in the quick sand of guilt and complacency. You’ve tried everything to find diets that work – weight loss supplements, calorie counting, low carb diets, weight loss teas – you name it. It’s not fair! Other people seem to be able to lose weight. You rationalize that maybe it’s in your genes to be overweight. Maybe it’s your addictive personality.
Here’s your fork: Continue to wallow, or keep reading.
OK, now it’s time to discover what you’ve been doing wrong, so that you can finally know the secrets of the best way to lose weight.
1. Self Denial
When someone tells you that you can’t have ice cream, you just want it even more. Simple human nature. Willpower…not very powerful.
So instead of denying yourself, embrace your desire. Own it.
If you are going to indulge, choose it. Take the time to eat it slowly and savour every bite. Allow yourself to get the true satisfaction of eating it.
Sometimes this can be scary. You may be worried if you give yourself permission to have it, you’ll never stop.
Think of this like a pendulum. It may swing back and forth for a bit. But whatever rhythm it settles in to will be more in tune with your needs than the tune you’re playing now.
2. Immediate Gratification
The taste. The escape. The sin of indulgence. The glory of rebellion. The satisfaction of saying #$@&%*! it. Let’s face it, in that moment you could care less about your weight loss goals. Or pretty much anything.
The funny thing is when you talk to people who do this (and by now I have personally spoken to many hundreds of them), they admit that they usually just gulp the junk down and don’t even pay attention to the taste. They also don’t heed their Healthy Body’s signals.
Admit it, after binging, your Healthy Body feels at least as crappy as the guilt, shame and self-flagellation.
So why not remind yourself of this BEFORE you eat 10 chocolate chip cookies, or a whole pizza or whatever your poison. Then see how tempting it actually is.
3. Eating Your Emotions
I once had a client whose friend would call her up and say: “Let’s go for ice cream. I want to eat my feelings.”
At least when kids say “the dog ate my homework,” they know they are lying. Let’s face it, feelings are not edible. You finish the pint of ice cream, and the momentary high is followed with feeling even crappier.
Stop conning yourself with a calorie-ridden band-aid. Find healthy ways to deal with your emotions.
Diets often play to the all or nothing mentality of perfectionism. They claim to have the magic formula for you to FINALLY be the thin god or goddess you were meant to be. Count every calorie. Never again eat even a single sugar crystal. Weigh yourself every time you spot a scale out of the corner of your eye. Follow the diet plan to a tee. All of this divorces you from your Healthy Body, and from reality. Which makes real weight loss a pipe dream.
Let’s face it, to have healthy weight loss, there has to be room for you to be human. You’re going to go out with your friends, go on vacation, celebrate your birthday, enjoy the Christmas season. That’s part of Healthy Living. So, ditch perfection and shoot for good enough.
5. Falling Victim To Frustration
How many times have you been bummed out that you’ve stuck to your diet plan for a whole WEEK and you STILL don’t look good in that bikini? Then use it as an excuse to say “screw it” and crack open the chips?
I don’t need to tell you that this will take time. Be nice to yourself. Realistic weight loss is your friend. Stick with it. Take small achievable steps. Celebrate taking the actions. Reward yourself along the way.
Make these 5 changes, and you can get off the diet roller coaster and lay the groundwork for sustainable weight loss.